Everyone has a voice in their head. You know the one; the one that sounds exactly like you, but more sarcastic and far crueler.
It feeds on your fears and delights in your failures and embarrassment. It has a never-ending monologue that points out all your shortcomings and missteps.
I call mine The Bitch.
And you know what? I’ve decided I’m not going to listen to it anymore. I'm tired of listening to it belittle me.
I will openly acknowledge everything it says, and promptly reframe it.
Reframing is the process of taking a negative situation and turning it into a more positive one. The Pollyanna approach to life.
I’m going to make the voice in my head wish it had never opened its mouth to whisper in my ear, because it will only be providing me with fuel to become awesome.
I encourage you to share your own reframing journey with me.
These are some of the things it said to me this morning.
“No one is going to like your costume, it’s hideous.”
Wore it anyway. Got lots of compliments. No one instantly knew what I was, but people thought it was clever.
Admittedly, it’s an orange dress. It’s a very…. Eye-catching colour. I was nervous about it, and I’m scared of the ombre pattern on it. And I’m not entirely comfortable with one sleeved dresses. But I’m starting to get used to it. And the colour is surprisingly complementary. I wouldn't have normally considered pumpkin orange.
I'm sorry but you're flat out wrong!
“Ewww… Ugly wig. Are you seriously wearing that?
It’s hot, it’s itchy. Ugh. But people kept telling me I should dye my hair that colour because it’s so striking with my complexion. And a wig cap helps with the itchiness. :p
I think people were more surprised that I was able to get all my hair under the wig. ;)
“Oh my god, why can’t you get your act together? You were supposed to do this, this and this!”
Well, it’s true that I have a lot on my plate. Some things have fallen by the wayside, but I have gotten my top priorities completed or made progress on them.
And you know what? You’re right. I had forgotten about the third thing. Thank you for reminding me, I’ll make that my next priority. But the first two? I’m not worried about them right now.
